The holidays are meant to be a time of joy, connection, and celebration—but for families caring for aging parents or loved ones with dementia or complex health needs, this season can bring unexpected anxiety and strain.
At LiveWell Care Management, our geriatric care managers often see a noticeable rise in stress during this time of year. The pressure of planning, the emotional weight of changing family dynamics, and the presence of out-of-town relatives can create the perfect storm. For many families, balancing holiday expectations with the realities of caregivingbecomes an overwhelming challenge.
Holiday gatherings often expose changes in an older adult’s physical or cognitive condition—especially when long-distance relatives visit and notice concerning differences. While these observations are valid, they often trigger a sense of urgency to “fix everything now.”
We encourage families to separate two important goals:
Trying to solve long-term care issues in the middle of holiday celebrations can lead to rushed decisions, family tension, and missed opportunities for connection. Instead, we recommend agreeing to make a care plan after the holidays, when emotions have settled and there’s time for thoughtful decision-making.
That’s where LiveWell’s care managers come in—providing guidance, clarity, and professional planning support to make the New Year less stressful and more manageable.
Create a schedule that includes meals, downtime and familiar routines. Predictability helps seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment feel more comfortable and reduces confusion. Build in extra time for transitions, and expect the unexpected.
Gradually decorate your home to avoid overstimulation. Use traditional music, smells, or decorations your loved one associates with happy memories. Familiar environments can trigger positive emotions and reduce agitation.
Skip the loud, elaborate parties and focus on smaller, more intimate celebrations. Keep noise levels low and group sizes manageable. Guide visitors on how to interact with your loved one and facilitate meaningful, calm interactions.
Stick to meals your loved one is familiar with and can easily eat. Avoid overloading on sweets or caffeine, which can affect mood and cognition. Consider dietary restrictions related to medical conditions or medications.
Caregiving during the holidays can be exhausting. Schedule time to rest, delegate tasks, and ask for help from family members or professionals. Burnout doesn’t help anyone—you deserve support too.
If long-held traditions are no longer realistic, embrace new ways to find joy. Smaller rituals, creative expressions, and a fresh focus on connection and well-being can create a meaningful experience for the entire family. Plan a post-holiday meeting to discuss long-term care goals and next steps.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to handle a loved one’s changing needs, you don’t have to face it alone. The Aging Life Care Professionals® at LiveWell specialize in supporting families through every stage of aging, including:
Let us help you turn holiday stress into an opportunity for peace of mind in the new year.
